5 WAYS GOALS CAN SABOTAGE YOUR SUCCESS
“Goal setting is often considered an important contributor to achieving your ambitions but for many they are limiting”, says Dr. Madisen Harper, author of limitLESS – 10 Energy Excelerators to Access Your Infinite Potential.
Since childhood we have been taught the importance of goals from kicking goals during a soccer game in order to ‘win’ to setting goals to achieve a strategic initiative at work. What are goals? They are a desired result that is observable and measurable and achieved within an identified timeframe. Goals are perceived to be beneficial as they keep us focused and on-track. But it’s these very aspects that could be getting in the way of success.
Do you want the new house or expensive vacation or are you really craving the security, comfort or relaxation these experiences represent? Many achieve their goals and the excitement is short-lived and / or not as sweet as they’d hoped because they’re not clear on what fulfills them. Goal Free Approach – Forget the ‘stuff’ and consider the ‘states’ you’d like to anchor into your reality. They may include; love, freedom and health. These essences exist everywhere and all three can be found by taking your dog (love) for a walk (health) on the beach (freedom).
BEING ATTACHED TO THE OUTCOME:
If you have a goal of being a published author you’d need to get an agent, obtain a publishing deal and wait 18 months for your book to hit the retail shelves. Anything is possible but publishers state only 2% of manuscript submissions go to print. Is a book the true desire or is it a platform to share a message?If it’s the latter there are a plethora of opportunities; blogs, articles, podcasts and videos. Goal Free Approach – Open your mind and energy to receiving opportunities in a multiple of ways and affirm, “It’s always a case of this or something better.”
FAILURE DOESN'T FEEL GOOD
We’ve all heard the statistic that 90% of all New Year’s resolutions fail within the first 30 days. Failing to achieve goals time after time teaches us our strike rate isn’t high. Goal Free Approach – Celebrate successes, big or small. Like attracts like, so the more we rejoice in our achievements the higher the likelihood of attracting more of the same into our reality.
BEING TOO FOCUSED ON THE FUTURE:
One of the challenges around goals is the gap between the ‘have’ and ‘have not’. The goal’s end result is a constant reminder that we are yet to actualize our desires which can be motivating for some but more often than not disheartening for others. Goal Free Approach – Recognize that your point of power is now and every thought, action and choice is cultivating your existence.
I'LL BE HAPPY WHEN...
Goals suggest that you are moving in a direction that either moves you away from what you don’t want or in a direction you think you want. We often hear, “I’ll be happy when I lose weight.” “I’ll be happy when I get a new job.” Goal Free Approach – Choose, “I’ll be happy now” and actively look for aspects of your life that work for you and make you feel joyful. From this state you can create anything.